This has been a very interesting pregnancy in that my experience of it has been more public. When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a share site that I only used for family. While it was also a personal pregnancy journal, one could only access it by a password.
At the time, I didn’t realize that my share site would inspire me and prepare me for my blogging career. The share site morphed into two other blogs when my son was born. Then, one year later, I merged the two blogs and Charlene Chronicles came about. Thus, from one pregnancy to another, my potential baby-bump-musing-reach went from 8 people to over 5000 people (with Twitter, subscribers and fans combined.)
So when I found out about baby number two, I had to ask myself the question: How much do I publicly want to share about my second pregnancy?
Fellow pregnant bloggers have posted online weekly updates with photos, status updated details of their pregnancies and tweeted private musings. Yet for me, it was a fine line that I wanted to walk. I wanted to share what I was going through, as that is the heart of this blog, but having pictures and personal details permantely on the internet wasn’t something I wanted either. After some reflection, I decided to share some things with the world and keep other things close to home.
While I didn’t share our struggles, I did post data. While I didn’t share weekly pregnancy updates, I did have a baby gender reveal twitter party. While I didn’t tweet every time I went to the doctor, I did write about some challenges of pregnancy. It has been a very interesting experience and I hope that the decisions I have made on a case-by-case basis, will be positive online memories for my daughter…and for me.
All in all, it would be easier to be a Blogger that posts about my children all the time or none of the time. But that would not be authentic for me. So each time I open my blog to post, I ask myself these questions:
- Do I want this to be something my child’s employer will find on the internet 20 years from now?
- Do I want this to be something my future employer will find on the internet a week from now?
- Is this something I want my own family to know, let alone a stranger?
- Is there a benefit to the post – for me or for someone who may read this?
Whether you are a Blogger, or just a Mom or Dad, deciding what to share online is one of new roles of being a parent that our own parents didn’t have to go through. Yet regardless of what you decide, capturing memories is important to remember the early days of our children’s lives. This was something I suggested when I was interviewed on a local TV station recently. Write things down during your pregnancy so you have great early memories and keep the momentum going after they are born. At a minimum, get a good baby memory book and keep it in the kitchen, family room or your bedroom (so it is easy to keep updated as your child grows, and they grow fast!) So even if you don’t post online, you will have a great history of the first few years of their lives.
Even though I’m a blogger, I still find having paper and a pen to be a great way to capture these memories. So while I may not share it online, I have my thoughts. It won’t be stolen, or deleted, or won’t be lost if the internet went out of business tomorrow. (Especially if I store the memory book in a safe like my parents did for me.)
Whether you are having your first baby or fifth, I’d like to thank Hallmark for their great selection of baby memory books and products. They have thought of everything a parent may want to remember and it is customizable for the various ‘non-traditional’ parenting roles and the various ways some of us have come by being a parent. And they have given me a memory book to giveaway (your choice of boy, girl or neutral), along with an adorable teddy bear where you can record your voice in a song to share with your baby. (I teared up when I saw mine.)
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Many thanks to Hallmark for providing me with a memory book for my two children and an adorable recordable bear too. But most of all, for being a company that helps us to be parents.