Is it ever too late to have new friends? Especially if you are over 30 years old?
I find it harder to make new friends now that I am older. I have tried to reconnect with old college friends, tried to reach out to people in new Moms groups, and introduced myself to neighbors. But to no avail. It is like they have their network of friends and have no interest in adding another. (Though they may have a gazillion friends on Facebook.)
At what point does one say, “You know what, I have enough friends in my life that I don’t need another?” Granted with our busy lifestyles, it is hard to have a cup of coffee or spend a couple hours shopping, but when does having too many ‘real’ friends seem like a bad thing?
Each day, I watch my son foster new relationships. He walks into a room, checks it out and starts playing with another kid like they have known each other forever. It is easy for him because he does not have any preconceptions, nor does the other boy or girl. He is not thinking, “Well, I already have Lisa and Mary as my friends, so I don’t have time to make John my friend.” Nor is he thinking, “Well, John only wants to be friends for me because I have nice Old Navy jeans” or “He is just trying to know me so he can be popular.”
As I drop my 16 month old off at his school, and he runs to play with his new friends, I have to say….I’m a bit jealous.